How to Stay Connected and Talk with Your Kids

Want to talk more with your kids and feel closer as a family? Here are some simple tips for each stage of their life. It’s important to find different ways to communicate as your family changes and grows.

Tips for Talking with Elementary-Aged Kids
Kids this age love to share stories, ideas, and feelings. Listening and paying attention helps build their trust and confidence.

• Give Them Your Full Attention. If your child is telling you about their day, stop and really listen. Face them, look into their eyes, and even kneel down so you’re at their level. It shows you care about what they’re saying.
• Notice Their Feelings. Watch for signs that they might feel upset, worried, or excited. If you see something, say it out loud: “You seem sad. Did something happen today?” This helps them feel safe to share their feelings with you.
• Play Together. Playing is a great way to bond. Spend a few minutes coloring, building with blocks, or playing a quick game with them. Even 10 minutes of fun time together can make a big difference.

Tips for Talking with Your Middle Schooler
Middle schoolers are changing fast, and their feelings can be all over the place. Staying close takes patience and creativity.

• Find Ways to Laugh Together. Middle school can be stressful for you and your child, but laughter can help. Share funny stories, watch silly videos, or joke around. It’s a great way to feel closer.
• Encourage Them. Middle schoolers are dealing with lots of new challenges. Let them know when you see them doing something good: “I’m really proud of how hard you worked on that project!” A little encouragement can boost their confidence.
• Spend Time Together. Middle schoolers get busy with sports, friends, and activities. Plan time to hang out, even if it’s simple. Try taking a quick trip to the store once a week or going for a short walk together.

Tips for Talking with Your High Schooler
Teenagers may be starting to do their own thing, but it’s still important to show them you care.

• Do Things Together. Invite your teen to join you while you cook, clean, or do a project around the house. Watch a favorite show together or help with a fun task. This gives you time to talk naturally.
• Welcome Their Friends. Your teenager’s friends are a big part of their life. Invite them over to hang out at your house. It lets you stay connected without being too intrusive.
• Be Honest and Listen. Teens want you to be honest with them, and they need you to listen when they talk. Be there when they have tough questions or just want to share.